Searching Happiness !

When I talk of happiness, images of toddlers, small kids flash to my mind. The smile and energy kids are bestowed with do teach us a lot, volumes of intellect can be learned if we observe their innocence. Every grown up adult today was once a kid!  Our basic nature is to be happy and cheerful. Play with a kid and discover the infinite ways to be happy, discover the infinite zeal to achieve something. Discover to let go pain of a knee injury on the sight of a smile. Discover the perseverance to play, to go to market or a garden each day! Discover the life…

This behavior in itself amuses me as well as makes me think deep inside. When does this small kid diminish in us and turns in a mature person? When do we realize that it’s not worth to play, it’s not worth to always speak truth, it’s not worth to always give a smile to strangers !.. In this worth not to process we process ourselves as grown up individuals and capable people to lead life. We as grown up individuals have  lots of objectives, lots of goals may be short term goals, may be long term goals and so on … Life does revolve around these goals and we achieve some of these , some we loose and some goals lose their significance. When we achieve some goal we feel happy, it gives a sense of accomplishment, fulfillment that’s completely natural. When we lose a goal, we become unhappy, we feel bad about it. That is also completely natural. We are humans and will be governed by these natural traits that Mother Nature bestowed us with.  We cannot expect every individual to be Yogi who will be indifferent to these stimulating results of our own set goals. Yeah at the same time, Yogis will certainly be expecting us to react in a balanced manner to each situation, and that’s the key of being happy.

It is our own reaction to a result that decides our magnitude of being happy or sad. When these reactions interfere with our behavior to an extent which affects our daily life, our attitude, it’s in fact an indication that something somewhere is wrong.

Feeling embarrassed and guilty on realizing (in a party) that the shoe which I am wearing is torn or laughing on it and sitting quietly on a chair with a smile on your face are two reactions and it is upto us to choose any of these two.  Having a suicidal tendency on knowing that a person has been fired from Job or searching web for a new job are two situations to choose from.  Scolding a kid for poor performance in exams or to encourage and help him to study is another situation.

Our own reactions to above situations will decide whether we choose to be happy or sad. Our basic nature is to be happy. Happiness is a decision to be taken! We cannot be dependent on anything to be happy. Happiness is creation of our own mind. It is healthiness of mind.

The first good thing is to realize that something is wrong, when we know something is wrong then only we can take steps to set it right.

Let us all be grown-ups as well as kids we used to be, Let us learn to laugh for small reasons, and let us learn to be happy for no reason. We search for reasons to be happy. Reasons change, circumstances change but if we want our happiness to stay with us always we should first learn to live life. We should learn that we are not indispensable!  This is life, not a set story written by some of our own friend who will not write bad situations for us. Situations can be bad, these may be worse, the key is to stay calm, the key is to believe that it is temporary. Same is the fact which remains true for good situations, those situations are also temporary! We cannot feel bad since a particular situation of happiness did not stay long. These situations should bring a smile on our face but should not affect us to a huge extent.. Remember when we were kids we didn’t need any reason to be happy.

Let us feel the morning sun shine, let us cherish that. Let us feel the twinkling in eyes of a needy when we help him or her. Let us listen to the chirping of birds and that will bring happiness to us. Let us feel the cool breeze of wind in winters. That will bring smile to us. Let us not allow kid inside us to die to fade away. Let us all be matured individuals and kids at the same time.

Do the things that bring smile on your face… Follow your heart, follow your soul, Soul is the best guide ! Do recognize its voice … Mastery this art and life is yours. This is the key to happiness and to happy life!

Be happy for no reason! Be happy for nature! Be happy for yourself!

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                                                                  Kailash Raina